One Hundred Ways for Women to Create Oxytocin on Their Own
 
By Jim Stephens based on John Gray: Why Mars and Venus Collide
 
What follows is a random list of oxytocin-producing activities that can help a woman fill up her tank on her own. These are activities in which a woman treats herself well by doing things for herself that are rewarding, fulfilling, comforting, and involve connecting with others besides her partner. Oxytocin production is stimulated by tending-and-befriending behavior.

 

A man can only help a woman with about 10% of her oxytocin needs. Historically women got most of their oxytocin needs met by activities with other women during the day. Now when so many women work in a highly testosterone environment, they need to understand the types of activities which will help rebuild their oxytocin.

 

If a woman can meet 90% of her own needs, she'll be feeling very good when she sees her man. When he adds that extra 10%, she'll then be feeling really great and he'll be able to take credit for it (raising his testosterone).

 

If a woman is around 0% and depleted of oxytocin, even if the man adds 10%, it will seem insignificant to her. He'll also feel like a failure. That will have a negative effect on his testosterone levels. It's going to be a win-win or a lose-lose. 

 

Suggestions 51 to 100.
 
51. Join or form a new mothers' club.
52. Take care of children in some capacity.
53. Feed the hungry.
54. Read magazines about fashion and people.
55. Attend inspirational, spiritual, and religious gatherings regularly.
56. Keep updated on the lives of friends.
57. Watch your favorite TV show or DVD with a friend.
58. Listen to inspirational tapes or CDs.
59. Talk with or call a therapist or coach.
60. Study a new culture and taste its cuisine.
61. Spend time at the beach, a river, or a lake.
62. Learn to ski, play golf. or play tennis with friends.
63. Enjoy wine tasting with friends.
64. Demonstrate for a social or political cause.
65. Go to or participate in a parade.
66. Hire someone to help you remove the clutter from your house.
67. Offer to help a friend do something.
68. Take a class in nutrition, cooking, or wellness.
69. Read poetry, write poetry, and go to a poetry reading.
70. Get a bird feeder and enjoy the birds that come to feed.
71. Visit an art museum.
72. Go to a movie in the middle of the day.
73. Listen to an author speak at the local bookstore or library.
74. Keep a daily journal of your thoughts and feelings.
75. Organize a photo journal for each of your children.
76. Create an e-mail list of friends to whom you can send recent pictures.
77. Ask them to reciprocate.
78. Create an e-mail list of friends with similar political views for mutual support.
79 Take a painting or sculpture class with a friend.
80. Knit a scarf for someone you love.
81. Meet friends for an espresso or cup of tea.
82. Make a charitable donation.
83. Reorganize your closet.
84. Change your hair color.
85. Buy a new outfit.
96. Shop for sexy lingerie.
87. Share a picture album with friends.
88. Join a gym.
89. Play cards with friends.
90. Learn and practice a new diet plan or cleansing program for better health.
91. Give your old clothes to charity.
92. Send a birthday card.
93. Use household products that are good for the environment.
94. Prepare and freeze some meals for when you don't feel like cooking.
95. Take a flower-arranging class.
96. Volunteer at a local hospital or hospice.
97. Give a surprise party for a friend.
98. Give the books you have read to a hospital or the local library.
99. Babysit for a friend so that they can have some time off.
100. Take time out from your busy day to stretch.
 
You can undoubtedly come up with many more feel-good activities. Each of these suggestions involves sharing and caring.  
 
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