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50 Small Things That Make A BIG Difference - Part 2 
 
Adapted from Mort Fertel 

Dec. 5, 2010                                                                                                Issue 487  
Summary of this article
 
Here's the rest of the list of 50 Talk and Touch "Charges" from yesterday's email Tip.

Jim 

50 Small Things That Make A BIG Difference - Part 2 

 

Adapted from Mort Fertel by Jim Stephens

 

Remember that when it comes to love, it's the decision that's most important.

 

It's common to want to "microwave" a great marriage. But you can't. There's no quick fix. 

 

You can succeed if you are commited to doing SMALL THINGS in great ways over an extended period of time.

 

A Talk Charge is a 60 second positive verbal interaction with your spouse about a NON-LOGISTICAL matter. It's a fun or frivolous chat. And you do NOT need your spouse's cooperation. If necessary, you talk, they listen. A voice mail can even work.

 

A Touch Charge is similar, but it uses touch instead of talk. A Touch Charge is a loving physical gesture with your spouse. It's not foreplay or an advance for love making; it's just a warm touch for the sake of connecting in that moment.

 

Don't be overwhelmed by the list. Most of these won't work for you. I created 50 so you would have options. My challenge to you is to pick 2; in the next 24 hours do 1 Talk Charge and 1 Touch Charge.

 

MORT'S 50 WAYS TO TALK AND TOUCH LIST (first 7

were yesterday).

 

8. Kiss your spouse upon waking

 

9. Kiss your spouse before sleeping

 

10. Caress your spouse's hand

 

11. Touch your spouse's cheek or hand while driving

 

12. Rub shoulders next time you sit next to each other

 

13. Sit on your spouse's lap or sit them on yours

 

14. Compliment something your spouse is wearing

 

15. Call your spouse out of the blue to let them know you are thinking of them

 

16. Give your spouse a neck or shoulder massage

 

17. Share a story from the news or your day that you thought was interesting

 

18. What about dancing before dinner? No one's looking.

 

19. Tell your spouse that if you had to do it all over again, you'd choose them

 

20. Share a problem - thank your spouse for their concern

 

21. Play with your spouse's hair while talking in bed

 

22. Fall asleep holding hands

 

23. Remind your spouse to drive safely next time they leave the house

 

24. Call your spouse at work with the latest news.

 

25. Have a tickle "fight"

 

26. Say "I'm sorry" about a mistake you recently made

 

27. Think of 3 ways your spouse has made you a better person ... tell them now

 

28. Compliment your spouse on your favorite physical trait

 

29. Play Twister and let yourself laugh out loud

 

30. Look at your spouse when they are unaware of your gaze ... share your feelings

 

31. Share what you most admire about your spouse

 

32. Have a "remember when?" moment.

 

33. Thank your spouse for helping you through a challenging time in your life

 

34. Find a reason to touch your spouse when you are in the same room

 

35. Dig out the wedding album and reminisce

 

36. Hold hands under the table

 

37. Brush your mate's hair out of his/her eyes

 

38. Straighten his tie, being sure to touch him with love

 

39. Button or zip her dress, being sure to touch her with love

 

40. Knead the same dough together

 

41. Kiss in the elevator when no one is looking

 

42. Express confidence in your spouse's ability to overcome a problem

 

43. Listen to your spouse's worries - ask how you can help

 

44. Make your spouse's lunch for the day ... deliver it with a kiss

 

45. Send your spouse a fax with your special "code words" for I Love You!

 

46. Turn off your spouse's alarm clock...wake them with a massage

 

47. Kiss the back of your spouse's neck while he/she is reading

 

48. Before parting, tell your spouse you can't wait to see him/her again

 

49. An extra hug for no reason at all never hurt anyone

 

50. "Spoon" your mate while sleeping

 

Author & Founder of Marriage Fitness

 

CONTACT INFORMATION

Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel

3410 Bancroft Road

Baltimore, MD 21215

Phone: 410.764.1552

http://www.MortFertel.com

_______________________________________________________

 

God bless your family and your marriage.

 

Jim Stephens

Mort Fertel

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