1. Words of
Affirmation
Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to
persons whose primary love Language is "Words of
Affirmation." Simple statements, such as,
"You look great in that suit," or "You must be the
best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal
cookies," are sometimes all a person needs to hear
to feel loved. Another way to communicate through
"Words of Affirmation" is to offer encouragement.
2. Quality Time
Quality time is more than mere proximity.
It's about focusing all your energy on your mate.
A husband watching sports while talking to his
wife is NOT quality time. Quality conversation is
very important in a healthy relationship. It
involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings
and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context.
Quality activities are a very important part of
quality time.
3. Receiving Gifts
Some mates respond well to visual symbols of
love. If you speak this love language, you are
more likely to treasure any gift as an expression
of love and devotion. The gift of self is an
important symbol of love. Free, frequent,
expensive, or rare, if your mate relates to the
language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of
your love will leave them feeling happy and secure
in your relationship.
4. Acts of Service
Sometimes simple chores around the house can
be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple
things like laundry and taking out the trash
require some form of planning, time, effort, and
energy. Doing humble chores can be a very powerful
expression of love and devotion to your mate.
However, it is very important to understand what
acts of service your mate most
appreciates.
5. Physical
Touch
Many mates feel the most loved when they
receive physical contact from their partner. For a
mate who speaks this love language loudly,
physical touch can make or break the relationship.
Take the time to learn the touches your mate
likes. It is important to remember than this love
language is different for everyone.
Keeping Love Alive
by
Dr. Gary
Chapman 
