Today's and tomorrow's Marriage Tip are more
from the book, For Men Only: A
Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of
Women. The book is based on a huge
nationwide survey and hundreds of
interviews. - Jim
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6 Things Women Wish Men
Knew About them -
Part 1 of
2
It is likely no surprise to you that God has
wired women and men differently. We all recognize
some of these differences, but others often hide
in plain sight.
For Men Only: A
Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of
Women, recounts the surprising
truths learned about women after a national
survey of 3,000 women and hundreds of
follow-up interviews.
Here is a summary of
the first three of the six things women wish men
knew about them. I think you'll find
these areas fascinating! Tomorrow we'll
present that last 3 areas.
"I believe that in understanding these
issues, you'll be equipped to lead your marriage
to a better place!", according to Jim
Burns.
1. Women need
reassurance that they are loved.
Men often think that their love should be
assumed, that they "closed the deal" when they
married their wife. But, to women, it's not that
simple. Most women have a fundamental insecurity
about their husbands' love. They want to know
that their husbands love them - today!
Men will do well to make it a top priority
to reassure their wives that they love them ...
and not just when things are going well, but
especially during times of conflict.
2. Women can't just turn off
thoughts that concern them.
Think of a computer desktop, with
"windows" open. To close the windows, one just
clicks the close box and the window disappears.
When it comes to thoughts and emotions, men just
click the "close" box and move on.
Women, on the other hand, may
attempt to click the "close" box, but the window
won't close. Their thoughts and concerns about
bothersome past and present issues are not
easily dismissed.
What's a man to do? Telling your
wife, "Just don't think about it anymore"
doesn't work. Husbands should be good listeners
and help their wives process their concerns and
if possible to help them identify ways to
resolve their concerns.
3. Women value emotional
security more than financial security.
Everyone knows women are concerned
about the need for financial security in their
homes. What many men don't realize is that women
value emotional security more than financial
security.
In fact, the Feldhahns found that a
woman will endure financial insecurity in order
to find emotional security with her husband.
Women crave the emotional security that their
husbands' presence and connectedness creates.
In practical terms, women want
their husbands around them more and will likely
be willing to downsize their lifestyle to make
it happen.
