Sex Ed - What Kissing Means For Men
By Jay Dixit
Kiss of Life
Romantic love has three components-romance, attachment, and sexual arousal-and kissing activates all three, says Helen Fisher, author of Why Him? Why Her?
Both men and women also kiss to assess genetic compatibility. That's why kissing someone new can create sparks-or cause a budding romance to wither on the branch. We determine compatibility largely via scent, but saliva exchange may well play a role as well.
Maybe that's why 66 percent of women and 59 percent of men have experienced a first kiss with a new person that instantly killed the attraction.
What He's Thinking About
WIFE SWAB
The testosterone in saliva-and stimulation of our highly sensitive lips and tongues-may help trigger sex drive. Men exploit this, using kissing to induce sexual desire in women. Men may also unconsciously use kissing to assess the level of estrogen in a woman's saliva to determine her stage in the ovulation cycle and her fertility.
TASTE TEST
Men are more likely than women to initiate wet, open-mouthed, saliva-exchanging tongue kissing-since their senses of taste and smell are less acute, they need bigger, sloppier samples to gather enough information to assess compatibility.
READ MY LIPS
The lips are nature's mood ring: They flush darker when a person is aroused, signaling receptivity. Men are attracted to women with naturally large lips, which signal arousal and openness. Since lip plumpness peaks at age 14 in females, full lips also connote youth and good health.
KISS AND MAKE UP
Men instinctively use kissing to smooth over conflicts-with great success.
FIRE AT WILL
Men are more willing to have sex without kissing.
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God bless your family and your marriage.
Jim Stephens
