Sex Ed - What Kissing Means For Women
By Jay Dixit
Romantic love has three components-romance, attachment, and sexual arousal-and kissing activates all three, says Helen Fisher, author of Why Him? Why Her?
Both men and women also kiss to assess genetic compatibility. That's why kissing someone new can create sparks - or cause a budding romance to wither on the branch. We determine compatibility largely via scent, but saliva exchange may well play a role as well.
Maybe that's why 66 percent of women and 59 percent of men have experienced a first kiss with a new person that instantly killed the attraction.
What She's Thinking About?
MALE BONDING
Kissing drives up levels of oxytocin, which promotes attachment and bonding. The novelty of kissing someone new may release dopamine, which fosters romantic love.
Women exploit this, using kissing to promote bonding.
Women also kiss to assess the health of the relationship. Kissing is a good barometer of how happy a couple is.
DEATH TO SMOOCHY
Kissing evolved as a mate-assessment tool - a way for men and women to try each other out, to literally taste each other before committing. Women prefer demure, closed-mouth kisses - since their senses of taste and smell are acute, they don't need a lot to assess compatibility.
THROUGH THICK AND THIN...LIPS
On a man, too much plump indicates a lack of masculinity and dominance. Women prefer men with medium-size lips: thick enough to convey compassion and friendliness, but not so large as to appear feminine.
THE WRONG EMBRACE
Women incorrectly believe kissing is not a good way to reconcile after a fight.
LADY IN WAITING
Most women say they wouldn't have sex without kissing.
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God bless your family and your marriage.
Jim Stephens
