What Kind of Partner Do I Want to Be?

By Steven Stosny

The purpose of the exercise is to give you a greater sense of control in regard to self-healing and relationship improvement.

Of the following 5 traits, circle all that describe what you most value about yourself as a husband/wife/intimate partner:

    Loving

    Compassionate

    Supportive

    Flexible

    Sexy

Circle the vertical line (l) that best describes your current state as a husband/wife/intimate partner on the following 5 continuums:

        Loving                  l  l  l  l  l    Contemptuous

        Compassionate    l  l  l  l  l    Resentful

        Supportive            l  l  l  l  l    Critical

        Flexible                l  l  l  l  l    Rigid

        Sexy                    l  l  l  l  l    Rejecting sex

On a separate paper, describe one thing that you could do to move one notch closer to the kind of intimate partner you want to be.

Loving:

Compassionate:

Supportive:

Flexible:

Fair:

Sexy:

Again, the purpose of the exercise is to give you a greater sense of control in regard to self-healing and relationship improvement. By taking a very small step to improve, the feeling of success will inspire and encourage you. Repeat the process again in the future.

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God bless your family and your marriage.

Jim Stephens