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How To Build Your Level of Commitment
 
From Focus on the Family 
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Just like your body needs to exercise to be healthy, it is necessary to make effort so we can grow our spiritual side. Here are some tips to think about. Each one that you try will bring some benefit.
 
Jim
How To Build Your Level of Commitment
 
Another important aspect of commitment is that it must be made, or re-made, on an ongoing basis.
 
There's more to it than just saying you're committed to your marriage or simply "feeling good" about your relationship.
 
Commitment must be played out in your actions. Instead of allowing yourself to drift away from your spouse, make a deliberate move toward closer relationship. Strengthen and nourish your marital commitment regularly.
 
Here are some ideas to get you started:
 
  · Pray.Seek God and His will for your life and your marriage. Spend time in honest reflection. Ask Him to show you how to be the spouse He wants you to be. Pray for strength and unity in your marriage.
 
  · Say it with actions.Let your behavior reflect your commitment. Make yourself available when your spouse wants to talk. Spend time alone with your spouse. Laugh together. Date each other.Plan for your future together. Build hedges where necessary to guard against external temptations and distractions.
 
  · Say it with words.Tell your spouse that you are committed to your marriage for the rest of your life. Let your kids know that you and your spouse are committed to each other through thick and thin. Write her a love letter.
 
  · Remind yourself of all the positive aspects of your relationship.What do you love about your spouse? How has being married blessed you? How has marriage made you grow? What are you thankful for? Ask God to bring these things to mind. Make a list if you have to and review it often.
 
  · Set goals.How would you like to see your marriage grow? What areas would you like to see improve? Map out a game plan to achieve those goals and work toward them. Seek outside help if necessary.
 
  · Get others involved.Surround yourselves with supportive individuals who share your values and want to see your marriage succeed. Form accountability partners. Seek out an older married couple to mentor you and your spouse.
 
  · Go public.Renew your wedding vows. Publicly express your continued commitment to your spouse. Invite friends and loved ones to pledge their support for your marriage.
 
If you're struggling in the area of commitment or you're unsure how to begin strengthening the level of commitment in your marriage, try the following:
 
 · Seek out a licensed, Christian marriage and family therapist or Christian counselor who specializes in relational commitment issues. 

 · Attend a marriage seminar.
 
 · Read valid educational materials on commitment and building a better relationship.
 
 · Take small actions consistently over a long time like reading a daily Marriage Tip.  
 
Don't just wish you or your spouse were more committed to your marriage; take action starting today to make it happen!
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God bless your marriage and family.
 
Jim Stephens
 

 

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