20 Questions to Open the Heart of Your Child - Part 2
By The Advanced Training Institute International
Listening to gain understanding and bond with your child.
The questions listed here can guide you in bonding sessions with your sons and daughters to help deepen your relationship and give you insights into their needs.
Take time to get to know each of your children. Set aside time just to ask questions and listen.
Don't teach or answer with your ideas, just ask more questions. If you need to, write their answers down.
You could use a notebook for each child and record their answers in it.
11. What irritation in our family bothers you the most?
Goal: Learn about the problems in the family that you need to work on, and later teach the children how to respond to sources of irritation.
12. What makes you really angry?
Goal: Find out areas where your children have not yielded rights and expectations to God. Help them address those areas. (See Philippians 2:3-16.)
13. What do you want to do when you grow up?
Goal: Discover what your children are moving toward. Help them develop a sense of destiny.
14. What has been the biggest disappointment in your life so far?
Goal: Learn what is hurting them at times. Explain God's purposes for disappointments.
15. If you had the power to change anything about the way you look, would you use that power? If so, what would you change?
Goal: Find out if they are rejecting themselves. Gain insights for helping them see and appreciate God's design in their lives.
16. What do you appreciate the most about each member of our family?
Goal: Focus on positive qualities in the family. Later encourage them to share with the others what they appreciate.
17. What biographies have meant the most to you?
Goal: See if your children are learning life stories from Godly people.
18. What do you like to do the most as a family?
Goal: Learn how you can have family fellowship that your children will enjoy. Later, plan an activity.
19. Encourage them to be honest. If you could change anything about me, what would you change?
Goal: Discover where you are damaging your relationship with them.
20. When you get to the end of your life, what do you want to look back on and say that you accomplished for God?
Goal: Discover if they have a purpose in life.
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