What If You Don't Feel Like It?
By John Gray
If a man's testosterone is depleted, he feels too stressed to plan a date. He just does not feel like it. He does not realize that if he planned a date, much of his stress would go away. Planning dates will actually bring his testosterone level up again.
At work, a man doesn't think twice about doing things that he doesn't feel like doing. He does them because it is necessary to get the job done. His thought process is as follows: "I don't want to do it, but if it is necessary, then I am happy to do it."
He can also apply this approach to his relationship once he becomes aware of what is necessary. If he wants to keep the passion and attraction alive, he needs to do certain things even if he doesn't feel it.
To keep the passion alive, we must do what works even if we don't feel like it.
For a woman with depleted oxytocin, she often feels too overwhelmed to go out on a date. If, however, she allows a man to plan it for her, even if the date is not exactly what she would have wanted to do, she will find that she begins to relax and be happy.
When she allows him to take care of her, her stress is reduced, and she begins to smile again. She may not completely like the movie or restaurant, but she will appreciate his taking the initiative to make the plan and take care of her needs.