Here is another very practical tip from Gary Chapman. The most precious thing that life is made of is your time. Give some of it to your spouse in the form of a letter. He/she may treasure it more than any Christmas gift.

Verbalize Through Writing
 
By Dr. Gary Chapman 
 
If you find it difficult to share your feelings with your spouse, try writing your thoughts and feelings in a letter to your spouse. 

 

Many times it is easier to write than it is to speak.  
 
When you become comfortable writing the letters and your spouse responds with comfort and encouragement, you will eventually learn to verbalize your feelings. 
 
Writing can be a big step in the process of learning how to communicate openly about your 'inner self'.  After writing a few letters, you might try reading the letter to your spouse. 

 

Step by step you can learn to share your thoughts and feelings. 
 
A listening ear on the part of your spouse often provides the encouragement to continue to communicate.
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This article is written by Dr. Gary Chapman based on his book, Desperate Marriages. Published by Moody Publishing, copyright 2004.

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