Here is a rather simple understanding, but one that can be very helpful to men (in my humble opinion).

Ah Feelings...
 
By Dr. Gary Chapman
 
Communication is the road to intimacy, but communication means more than simply sharing our thoughts. It involves sharing our feelings.  
 
Here's a good example. A husband comes home from work and shares with his wife that he had a conversation with his supervisor and was informed that he is to receive a pay raise. 
 
The wife asks, "How do you feel about that, darling?" He may respond with, "Elated! I didn't expect a raise until the first of the year." On the other hand, he may say, "Do you want to know the truth? I feel disappointed. The raise should have been twice as much as it was." 
 
Whichever way he responds, the wife now knows her husband better. Because he has shared his feelings, she now feels closer to him emotionally. That's what intimacy is all about. 
 
We are emotional creatures, and we have emotional responses to things that happen to us throughout the day. 
 
If we are going to build intimacy in marriage, we must learn to share some of our emotions. I say "some", because life is not long enough to share all of our emotions.
 
But, life is too short not to have intimacy. 

To find out more about Dr. Chapman's resources, visit www.5lovelanguages.com.