Any two people will likely have disagreements. How to get beyond that when it's really important and emotional is the question. Here are 2 days worth of ideas.

Fighting Fair
 

By Bob and Sheri Stritof, www.about.com

Almost all married couples have arguments, or rather fights. How you fight is the key to whether or not you will have a successful, long term marriage.
 
Fighting fairly in your marriage is a critical skill that you must learn.
 
The way you fight can often tell psychologists more than what you fight about. If done correctly, conflict and healthy, fair fighting, can strengthen your marriage. 
 
Here's How To Be Fair:
 
1. Don't let little things that bother you build up until one of you explodes the issue into a large fight. That's not fighting fair in your marriage.
 
2. If you are angry about something and don't try to talk about it with your spouse within 48 hours, let it go. Otherwise, you are not fighting fair.
 
3. If your spouse doesn't want to discuss the matter, set an appointment within the next 24 hours to have your fair fight.
 
4. Fighting fair means you know what the issue is. Then, both of you stick to the subject.
 
5. Keep your fight between the two of you. Don't bring in third parties like your mother-in-law, his best friend, or your children.
 
6. Fighting fair means you don't hit below the belt.
 
7. Fighting fair means you don't bring up past history.
 
8. Fighting fair means no name calling. Even endearing terms and pet names can be hurtful when you are using a sarcastic tone.
 
9. Be careful how you use humor. Laughter is good, but teasing can be misinterpreted and can be hurtful.
 
10. Listen to one another fully while you fight. This includes watching body language. Look at one another while you speak.
 
11. Don't interrupt during your fight.
 
12. Fighting fair means you don't blame one another make accusations.
 
13. Try to use 'I' sentences instead of 'you' sentences.
 
14. If the two of you are not extremely angry, try to hold hands while talking during your fight.
 
15. Be open to asking for forgiveness and being willing to forgive.

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