Here is the second half of the article from two days ago on how to have disagreements and get beyond them.

Fighting Fair
 

By Bob and Sheri Stritof, www.about.com

Almost all married couples have arguments, or rather fights. How you fight and resolve the issue is the key to whether or not you will have a successful, long term marriage.
 
Fighting fairly in your marriage is a critical skill that you must learn. 
 
If done correctly, conflict and healthy, "fair fighting" can strengthen your marriage. 
 
Tips:
 
1. Even though it may be hard to forgive your spouse, not forgiving can cause more harm both emotionally and physically to yourself and to your marriage. Holding a grudge is letting someone else live in your head rent free.
 
2. Remember to not fight to win, but to fight for your relationship.
 
3. Conflict is not the problem. All married couples have differences and disagreements. It's not knowing how to effectively resolve them that creates difficulty in a marriage.
 
4. Don't use the words "never" and "always" in your statements to one another.
 
5. Do not yell. Do not scream. Do not talk in a threatening tone.
 
Very important concepts to remember:
 
* Conflict management skills
 
* A sense of fairness
 
* Putting your marriage first
 
* Willingness to forgive
 
* Ability to listen

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