How Much Talk And Listen Time A Day?

By Dr. Gary Chapman

Do you have a daily "sharing time" with your spouse?

Communication is the key to intimacy. However, it takes time to communicate. I've found that the couples who have good communication, "make time" to talk and listen.

Just as they make time to eat, watch television, read a book, or mow grass, they make time to talk.

How much time is required?  I've found that 15-20 minutes per day is a good place to start.

Sit down, look at each other and share some of the things that happened today and how you feel about them. A daily "sharing time" is a big step in the right direction.

One husband said, "But my life is the same every day. I don't have anything to share. It's always the same routine. Why talk about it?" Because it is your life and if you don't share it with your spouse then you will not have intimacy.

Intimacy means that we let each other into our lives - even if they are boring. If you talk about your boredom you might even be motivated to smell the roses or observe a sunset.

Life is better when it is shared.

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God bless your family and your marriage.

Jim Stephens