What Type Of Love Do You Have?
By John Gray
We're not all looking for the same kind of love.
Many folks want a romantic love, one that combines the physical passion that lights up that love center in the brain with caring and trusting.
There are Baby Boomers and older people who are reentering the dating scene and some, but not necessarily all, may want a love more focused on companionship and affection than a heavy testosterone-driven love.
When you want one type of love and your partner wants something different, you both may be using the L word, but defining love differently.
If your love life basically meets the description of a companionship or a platonic friendship love and you want something different, that could be what is causing you to question what you are feeling.
* Platonic love is the non-romantic love one has for a good friend.
* Companionship love is a love that feels good, is comfortable, and makes you feel happy when you are with your partner. Your senses are engaged, but the sources that inspire - looks, sound, taste, etc. - are not permanent and as change occurs so does the stability of the relationship. Couples sometimes settle here thinking this is good enough or all that can be expected.
* Romantic love begins with the bubble of infatuation and passion, which eventually bursts or develops into a real multidimensional love.
* Unconditional love combines all the above loves, which are deeply felt. Your significant other is your top priority. When the above three types of love are bound together by open hearts that trust and care, you will feel free to be completely yourself and give freely of your love. There is no doubt.
As you can see, there is no one definition of love and definitions vary depending upon the source. Love and what our souls want is unique to each of us and varies at different stages in our lives.
Shine your detective's light on the above descriptions of love to see where you relationship fits best and ask yourself if this is the type of love you want. You don't have to settle for less than what your soul requires. You can continue to grow a relationship you are in and there are many ways to do that. Or you may decide to seek another love.
