Why Women Need Men - Part 2

By John Gray

Fully receiving a man's support is not as simple today as it was in the past. Women today are confused when it comes to the role a man can play in their lives.

Some women, who are able to feel their need for a man but don't understand how men are different, expect them to react and respond the way another woman would. For these women, determining what they need in a relationship and what is possible can be very confusing. The days of women needing a man just for survival and security are gone.

So what do modern women need? When I ask this question, single women often have no idea. At first, they don't even want to admit that they need a man. They prefer to have a partner. They want to share their lives with someone, but they don't need a man. Needing a man would make these women feel weak rather than just feminine.

Women need to rediscover the power and strength of their femininity. Women don't have to be like men to be powerful and get what they want and need. Likewise, men don't have to become like women to be loving and supportive in their relationships.

Many successful women are repelled by the idea that they might need a man.

Needing a partner is not a weakness. It is why we partner up. Men and women just have different primary needs. Men need to feel needed, and women need to feel they are not alone.

Just as a woman is happiest when she feels she is getting what she needs from her partner, a man is happiest when he feels successful in meeting his partner's needs. This is an important distinction. We certainly need each other, but for different reasons.

Men need to feel needed, and women need to feel they are not alone.

Feeling that he makes a difference reduces a man's stress. It is what gives men a reason for living.

On the other hand, feeling that she is not alone and that she can get what she needs reduces a woman's stress. When a women feels she can open up and depend on someone, her stress in life is greatly reduced. When a woman is unable to recognize her needs or get them met, she increasingly feels distress in her life, and then wonders why she doesn't sleep well at night.

Independent and successful women often ask me why their husbands are so tired. With this new insight, it becomes clear. If she is unaware of her need for him, then he is not empowered by her love and appreciation. Instead, he becomes exhausted in her presence.

When a woman learns to feel her feminine side and identify her true needs for a man, her appreciation can bring out the best in her partner. Rather than becoming tired when he interacts with her, he is energized.

Many women today are under so much stress that they are simply unable to feel their needs. Under stress, women tend to reach out and feel the needs of others rather than their own. With a little time and exploration, these strong and independent women discover and admit to a variety of needs for a man.