99 Percent Of Couples Have No Face-Time

By David Clarke

Near the end of every married couple's first therapy session with me, I ask the same question: "How much face-to-face, no-distractions-allowed, just-the-two-of-you-together time do you spend in the average week?"

Ninety-nine percent give the same answer: "Not much, if any."

One of my first jobs as a therapist is to convince these couples to establish a regular, daily, twenty- to thirty-minute communication time. I tell them that this planned, intentional block of time will be a crucial, wholly indispensable ingredient in the makeover of their marriage.

Time together is a critical prerequisite to intimacy.

Time does not guarantee intimacy, but it is simply indispensable for intimacy to be created.

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Article is based on the book, The Total Marriage Makeover by Dr. David Clarke. Published by Barbour Books.