A Woman Needs To Talk About How She Feels

By John Gray

Creating times just to talk about things in general doesn't work because men have little to say.

When he understands he is not expected to share, a man is much more willing to talk with his partner. If it can make her happy and it doesn't require him to be someone he is not, then he is willing to do it.

If talking means she talks, and he listens to support her in feeling better, he can easily do that. If talking means she talks about her feelings and then expects him to talk about his feelings, it is another story.

Also if she plans to talk about her feelings and also attempt to solve problems, the prospect is even more off-putting to a man.

Women want to talk about feelings and solve problems at the same time. This is how they do it with their girlfriends, and this is how they want to do it at home. Expecting her partner to talk like a girlfriend sets a woman up for disappointment, and sets him up for failure.

If she wants to solve problems with him, she needs to speak his language and remove the overlay of feelings.

In the past, women rarely went to men to talk about their feelings. It is only with the advent of therapy that women have expected men to explore and validate their feelings while also solving problems. This expectation is unrealistic and can cause serious friction in relationships.

At these times, it is not only smart but also an act of loving compassion and kindness for a man to prioritize a woman's need to talk about her feelings before focusing on solving problems. By recognizing that this action will help her feel better, he is solving a potentially explosive problem and keeping his testosterone levels raised at the same time.