Thirty Tips to Build a Strong Marriage - Tips 1 to 5

By David Sunshine

Tips 1 - 5

To produce a good marriage, you have to work at it. As the saying goes, the only place you find success before work is in the dictionary.

Here are some things you can do to help build a strong marriage.

1. Watch Your Relationships

To preserve your determination to make your marriage succeed, don't get too close or flirt with members of the opposite sex. If you do, in the back of your mind, you might begin to view them as alternatives in the event that your marriage doesn't work out. This will weaken your resolve. After all, why work so hard when you have an escape route? Also, these types of close relationships are likely to make your spouse feel threatened.

2. Pay Full Attention

Listen to your spouse when he or she talks to you. It's a sign of respect. Try to give him or her your undivided attention. Also, nod in agreement occasionally - it tells your partner you're listening. If your spouse talks to you when you're in the middle of something important, say so, and suggest a time when you'll be able to pay full attention.

3. Share Enjoyable Activities

Do fun things with your spouse. Exercise together, take leisurely walks, or share a pursuit that's mutually enjoyable. Such activities strengthen your relationship and make it easier for the two of you to endure the hard times that come in every marriage.

4. Learn from Your Experiences

Learn from the past. For example, if you find that you're often tense when you're very hungry, minimize your conversation with your spouse during those times. Similarly, if you see that your spouse gets worked up whenever you mention the name of a certain relative, don't mention that person's name unless absolutely necessary. Try to learn from the past.

5. Be Polite

Be courteous to your spouse. When speaking with him or her, use phrases such as "please," "thank you," "would you mind if I....," and so forth. It will make your spouse feel appreciated and respected.