The Key to Physical Intimacy is Emotional Intimacy.

From HealthyMarriageTips.com

Supermarket magazines bombard us with a constant stream of "Secrets to the Best Sex Ever".

Here is the real secret. If you increase the quality of your emotional intimacy you will significantly increase the quality and quantity of your physical intimacy.

Physical intimacy can take place with a total stranger and while it will be physically exciting it can never come close to the exultant ecstasy that comes from becoming one with your spouse with whom you have developed a strong emotional bond.

Emotional intimacy usually takes time to develop. It can't be rushed or purchased. But it can be built one conversation and one experience at a time.

Before going much further it would also be good to give you our definition of emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy is your perceived sense of closeness with your spouse.

It's built on trust, acceptance, forgiveness and knowing that the other person honestly wants what is best for you and "has your back".

On average women tend to develop emotional intimacy through words and men tend to develop emotional intimacy through experiences. An example for women would be when they share their feelings about something they are struggling with. An example for men would be a hard and difficult experience that they overcame like fighting in a war, participating on a sports team, or any other shared physical activity that involves an element of danger and or difficulty.

Emotional intimacy also involves a tremendous amount of risk. It leaves you vulnerable to getting hurt because it involves lowering your walls and allowing someone else inside your defenses. That in turn could allow them to use what they learned later on to hurt you.