8. Realize that men and women also tend to have very different ways of processing what they're learning, Women tend to process externally by talking through new ideas. Men tend to process internally - they think about what they've learned. So she is likely to want to talk and ask questions. But while he may be open to responding, he may not be able to ask his own questions right away. In fact, he may say nothing and simply try to see if it works.

 9. It's amazing how quickly we can forget the important "Ahas!" we learned and revert to old assumptions and habits. Find a method to remind yourself of the most important truths going forward. For example, as you read, write down your biggest "Aha!" moments on an index card and put it where you will see and reference it occasionally. (For example, write, Remember, when I say this _______, my mate feels this _____.)

10. Consider purchasing and using the For Women Only Discussion Guide and the For Men Only Discussion Guide to facilitate your process of discussion and application - either with your significant other or with a small group or book club. The final page in both guides is a tear-out list of key reminders that can be kept and referred to again and again.

11. Remember that it might take time for each of you to understand the other person's way of looking at life. The great news is that is you both want to understand each other, you are already on your way to a stronger relationship!

12. Don't let this be so serious!  Enjoy the fascinating process of discovering your mate all over again, and look for opportunities to implement any new understandings right away. You'll be surprised how much fun it can be!

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God bless your marriage and your family. 

Jim

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