50 Tips For Quick Connecting - Part 1

From the Alabama Community Healthy Marriage Initiative website. 
 
Family researcher and psychologist, John Gottman, Ph.D. suggests that small emotional connections between partners add up to big time relationship satisfaction. He compares them to making steady deposits in a bank account and watching your savings grow.

For those of you who would like some creative inspiration, here are fifty things you can do to quickly connect with your spouse.

Pick the ones that work for you. Use them as a starting point to create your own "quick connects." 

 1. Make sure your kisses last at least six seconds. Every now and then go for a full minute. 
 2. Feed each other grapes. 
 3. Stick a love note in a lunch box, purse or pocket. 
 4. Send funny and/or romantic cards by snail mail or e-mail. 
 5. Learn how to give a great foot massage. 
 6. Wash each other's hair. Watch the movie Out of Africa for pointers. 
 7. Set your alarm for five minutes earlier than usual to cuddle. 
 8. Smile at each other. 
 9. Get silly with each other and laugh out loud together. 
10. Grab your partner for a spontaneous dance when a favorite song comes on the radio or stereo. 
11. Make eye contact when you talk. 
12. Hold hands. 
13. Leave a wonderful voice mail message on their phone. 
14. Text a love note. 
15. Send a love e-mail every day. 
16. Leave little love notes in unexpected places. 
17. Send a funny photo on your phone. 
18. Ask about each others' days. 

19. Listen with 100% attention. 
20. Give a one-minute shoulder massage. 
21. Do something unexpected for your spouse. 
22. Snuggle on the couch. 
23. Touch each other with affection. 
24. Notice and comment about something you like that your spouse does. 
25. Say thank you. 

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God bless your marriage and your family. 

Jim