8 Dynamics To Avoid In A Relationship - Part 2
By Jaustin
"I'm sure other couples do this." That's what goes through a lot of men and women's heads when there is a dynamic in their relationship that they sometimes wonder, "Is this bad?" when they already know the answer to the question.
But when you don't want to be out on the singles scene again, you would be surprised what people will allow themselves to deal with in a relationship. You can tell yourself, "this is normal, but there are some things that should never be justified: like the following.
3. Walking on eggshells
If you hide harmless details from your partner - who you're hanging out with, what you're doing - because you know they will take it the wrong way, even though you know there is nothing wrong with it, that's a problem.
A lot of people justify this by saying "oh, he just gets nervous about this or that. It's better if I don't tell him." But that is not healthy. There is major insecurity on your partner's part if you have to lie to him about harmless things you are doing. Or maybe, you could be out doing things you know you have no business getting into that you should reconsider out of respect for your partner.
Either way, the longer you do this, and the more you indulge his insecurities and don't make him face them, you'll just keep having to come up with more elaborate lies.
4. Sarcasm
I understand sarcasm is a major part of a man individual's sense of humor. However, if you and your partner find yourselves frequently saying things under your breath at one another - hurtful things that you really do mean - that's a problem.
It can mean that you two are incapable of talking about your problems. If your boyfriend does something you find annoying and you just turn your head and mutter, "typical," all you're doing is putting your negative thoughts out into the room, but not opening up a conversation about the issue.
5. Internalizing
No woman wants to be seen as the "dramatic girlfriend." And, in general, most (healthy) people don't desire to fight, so they end up doing the unhealthy thing of telling their partner "it's cool" when it's not. And even telling themselves that.
But, if you've conditioned yourself to internalize things, that means subconsciously you believe your partner is the type who would reprimand you for bringing up an issue. And either you are correct about that, and really shouldn't be with that person. OR, you're wrong, and you're not giving them the chance to prove that they are open to honest conversations and working issues out. 
