8 Dynamics To Avoid In A Relationship - Part 3
By Jaustin
"I'm sure other couples do this." That's what goes through a lot of men and women's heads when there is a dynamic in their relationship that they sometimes wonder, "Is this bad?" when they already know the answer to the question.
But when you don't want to be out on the singles scene again, you would be surprised what people will allow themselves to deal with in a relationship. You can tell yourself, "this is normal, but there are some things that should never be justified: like the following.
6. Obligatory Sex
Sometimes you say you're not in the mood and your boyfriend sort of teases you, tickles you, tries to seduce you and get you in the mood. That's fine. But, if you or your partner ever straight up try to make the other one feel bad or guilty for not wanting to have sex - say you become cold towards them or even go so far as to start saying mean things to them - that is a deeply disturbing dynamic.
Never should someone resent you or attempt to make you insecure in order for you to sleep with them. That BS happens enough at single bars as it is. It should not be happening in a healthy relationship.
7. A Royal Mentality
You should both be willing to drive to the other one's side of town. You should both be willing to do the dishes. You should both be willing to take care of the other one when sick. Some men find it fun to treat a woman like a princess - at first. A lot of women love to say "I treat my man like a king" and will do anything for him and ask for nothing in return - at first. But believe me, whoever is in the seat of royalty will always end up abusing it and take the other person for granted.
8. An Unsure Future
It is so common to find a relationship in which, one person has openly stated that they hope for more than what the other person hopes for. One hopes for a committed relationship, if not marriage. The other person has stated they absolutely do not want that.
But the two people are so blissfully happy right now, that they don't want to talk about the inevitable demise of their relationship.
The one who wants less is being selfish - he or she is happy to have sex and companionship now, even though he or she knows the other person will inevitably get hurt. The person who wants more is being weak - they too are happy to have sex and companionship now, and are too afraid to be alone while they wait for someone to come along who can actually give them what they want. Don't let either of these types be you.