100 Ways To Love Your Husband HIS Way - Part 1

By www.marriagemissions.com

A husband considers romance to be one way and the wife considers it to be another. The wife provides many romantic gestures which go unnoticed by her husband, because it wasn't romantic to him. The husband can spend precious time doing what he thinks will bless and romance his wife only to discover she didn't appreciate it at all.

What is wrong? Are the gestures extended not romantic or thoughtful? No. Are the recipients ungrateful and self-absorbed? No. The spouse is simply not romancing their spouse in a way that is romantic to them!

This is a great truth that once practiced is sure to produce lasting fruit. Study your spouse. Find out what romance means to them? It may surprise you!

But if you do your homework you will become the master of what really turns your spouse on!

Discuss the following list with your husband. Ask him to check the ones most meaningful and then arrange them in order of importance to him.

Use this list as a basis for learning his views. Your relationship can be greatly strengthened as you use the suggestions, which work for your marriage.

But keep in mind that these are ONLY SUGGESTIONS -not all or any of them have to be used.

1. Respectfully communicate with him.

2. Let him know he's important to you.

3. Purposefully try to understand his feelings-even when you disagree with him.

4. Show interest in his friends giving him some time with them if they're trust-worthy.

5. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse's.

6. Tell him you both love him AND like him.

7. Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely.

8. Protect his dignity on a daily basis.

9. When confronting him, realize he has feelings also.

10. Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.

11. Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving him time to adjust.

12. When you go out on a date together don't bring up problems-have fun instead.

13. Focus on what he's doing right, instead of focusing so often on the negatives.

14. Show interest in what he feels is important in life.

15. Give him special time with you apart from the children.

16. The first minutes after a spouse comes home often sets the stage for how the rest of the evening will go. Try to make that time a positive experience. (Ease into the negative.)

17. Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be much more enjoyable.

18. Don't allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband.

19. Compliment him often.

20. Be creative when you express your love, both in words and in actions.

21. Talk with him about having specific family goals for each year to achieve together to feel closer as a marital team.

22. Don't over commit yourself. Leave time for him.

23. Extend God's grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you.

24. Find ways to show him you need him.

25. Give him time to be alone. (This energizes him to reconnect at other times.)