Men Are Risk-Taking, Women Are Security Seeking
 
Article by Jim Stephens, based on Dr. John Gray's, Mars-Venus material
 
You may have noticed that men and women behave, think, feel, and react in very different ways to similar situations. (Duh!)
 
Scientific research is more and more discovering that males and females are "hard-wired" differently. Naturally, huge variations occur within a gender, but genetically based gender tendencies can help us to understand so much of why one sex tends to behave in a certain way.
 
Understanding the biological reasons behind the different ways men and women perceive their world and behave in it enables us to be more realistic about what to expect from our partners.
 
Many couples who report being happily married have already learned to appreciate the differences rather than trying to change their spouse. Science is beginning to catch up with research validating how male and female brains are different.
 
Edward O. Wilson, a world-famous sociobiologist from Harvard University, has systematically observed gender differences. He has found that women are more empathetic and security seeking than men and they have more developed verbal and social skills. On the other hand, men tend to be more independent, aggressive, and dominant and men demonstrate greater spatial and mathematical skills.

 

Practical example of how this plays out in real life.
 
For example, if a typical couple is going to discuss a financial investment, the man would tend to make quicker decisions and be more risk-taking. The woman would want to go slower and be more conservative. Women place security as a higher priority.
 
There is no need for the man to take it personally if his wife wants to go slow and ask a lot of questions. It's not a mistrust or disrespect of him and his abilities. It's the way her brain is naturally functioning and her inborn desire for security. And especially when a woman is under stress, she is going to want to talk and share even more. 
 
A man tends to want to get to solutions to problems right away. His brain wants to accomplish the goal and even rewards his body with the production of testosterone when he achieves it. Talking and sharing tends to lower his testosterone, producing stress for him.
 
To her, he may appear very impulsive and pushy. She may feel that he doesn't care about the way that she feels. If this is her interpretation, then she will likely become upset and react to him in a negative way.
 
When he gets the negative reaction from her, it will tend to increase his upset with her and with their failure to get to a solution to the problem.

 

By understanding our brains better, and then working together as a team, the strengths of both genders are utilized and a better result is achieved.

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