This article shares the insight that for men, what they do is important to them. So it's good for women to appreciate it and not be pointing out small failings.

Why A Man May Never Wash Another Dish
 
By Jim Stephens, based on John Gray, Mars/Venus material
 
Just as men settle into married life and get into a routine where they diminish the attention and romance they give their wives, women may start taking men for granted as well.
 
This takes the form of no longer appreciating the man for doing all the little things he does for her. As a woman gets to know her husband, she'll become more and more aware of his little failings. Then she might start pointing out all of the things he does wrong. This is in hopes that he'll change them.
 
But for him, pointing out his failings kills his passion.
 
John Gray's advice to women is to appreciate the things he does and don't point out his mistakes unless, on a scale of one to ten, those mistakes are eight, nine, or ten.
 
A man can deal with you pointing out his mistakes if they're serious. However, if you're pointing out mistakes indiscriminately (regardless of whether they're a one or a ten), it's a real turn-off. He feels, "If you really loved me, you'd overlook these little mistakes."
 
Sometimes, a man will say, "I cleaned up the whole kitchen, and she comes in and says nothing about how I cleaned it all up. She just says, 'you know, you put the pots in the wrong spot'."
 
That man may never wash another dish! 
 
It's better for women to focus on what he does right, not on the little mistakes he makes.
 
Women aren't taught this stuff, and it's very, very important.
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