Advice for Mars & Venus by Dr. John Gray
 
Advice for Mars: A man scores points with a woman if he does his best to contribute.
Advice for Venus: A woman scores points with a man if she lets him off the hook when he makes a mistake.
 
Advice for Mars: A woman will discover her feelings when she feels supported.
Advice for Venus: A man will discover his feelings when he is loved by a woman.
 
Advice for Mars: A woman closes up when a man dumps anger on her.
Advice for Venus: A man's self-esteem is not based on being sensitive to others' feelings.
 
Advice for Mars: Women do not appreciate being told how to change their feelings.
Advice for Venus: Men do not like being told what to do.
 
Advice for Mars: Women get in touch with their emotions by talking.
Advice for Venus: Men get in touch with their feelings by listening to other people's problems.
 
Advice for Mars: When a woman "spins out," she becomes overwhelmed and overreacts to situations.
Advice for Venus: When a man "spaces out," he forgets the important dates on the calendar.
 
Advice for Mars: A woman communicates to make a point, discover more, and experience intimacy.
Advice for Venus: A man communicates to make a point and solve a problem.
 
Advice for Mars: Women grow in love as their emotions rise and fall like a wave.
Advice for Venus: Men grow in love by drawing close and then pulling away like a rubber band.
 
Advice for Mars: Feminine awareness is expansive - taking in the whole picture to discover the parts within.
Advice for Venus: Masculine awareness tends to be sequential - building a complete picture from each part.
 
Advice for Mars: She feels comforted when she is not alone in solving life's problems.
Advice for Venus: Tell him in a playful way that you appreciate it when he listens.
 
Advice for Mars: Money does not prevent women from feeling overwhelmed.
Advice for Venus: Men tend to think money is the solution to all problems.
 
Advice for Mars: Doing more so that she will have to do less is not the answer to making her happy.
Advice for Venus: Once a man experiences a woman's appreciation his resistance to doing more melts away.
 
Advice for Mars: Men need to listen patiently and not passively.
Advice for Venus: Women need to ask in a loving way.
 
Advice for Mars: Women thrive on communication because it nurtures their female side.
Advice for Venus: Men thrive on appreciation because it nurtures their male side.
 
Advice for Mars: When a woman becomes overwhelmed, she retreats to her "well" to recharge.
Advice for Venus: When a man becomes angry he needs to go to his "cave" to cool off.
 
Advice for Mars: Women feel, talk, then think.
Advice for Venus: Men feel, act, then think.
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