Advice for Mars & Venus by Dr. John Gray
 
Advice for Mars: Her biggest struggle is maintaining her sense of self while expanding to serve the needs of others.
Advice for Venus: His biggest struggle is overcoming the tendency to be self-centered.
 
Advice for Mars: A man should answer his partner's questions by asking her to talk more.
Advice for Venus: When a man reveals what is bothering him, do not try to "improve" him.
 
Advice for Mars: Women love to care for their men, but primarily, they need to feel cared for themselves.
Advice for Venus: Men need to feel cared for, but primarily, they need to feel successful in fulfilling their partners.
 
Advice for Mars: Her deepest fear is being abandoned.
Advice for Venus: His deepest fear is that he is incompetent.
 
Advice for Mars: Don't judge her for needing reassurance.
Advice for Venus: Don't judge him for needing to withdraw.
 
Advice for Mars: Take her side when she is upset with someone.
Advice for Venus: Tel him "It's not your fault."
 
Advice for Mars: Women argue for the right to be upset.
Advice for Venus: Men argue for the right to be free.
 
Advice for Mars: Women need to receive caring, understanding, and reassurance.
Advice for Venus: Men need to receive trust, acceptance, and appreciation.
 
Advice for Mars: Fix something around the house.
Advice for Venus: Thank him for the little things he does.
 
Advice for Mars: The more a woman feels the right to be upset, the less upset she will be.
Advice for Venus: When men talk about their problems, they are looking for solutions.
 
Advice for Mars: Think out your thoughts before you express anger toward her.
Advice for Venus: Use soft language when you express your anger toward him.
 
Advice for Mars: When a woman is upset, she needs to be heard, not fixed.
Advice for Venus: Men often do not listen because they are focused on solving the problem.
 
Advice for Mars: Call her from work and tell her you love her.
Advice for Venus: Leave him a love note that only he will see.
 
Advice for Mars: When you return home, find her first and give her a hug.
Advice for Venus: A man feels successful in a relationship when he comes home to a happy woman.
 
Advice for Mars: Ask her specific questions about her day.
Advice for Venus: Give him space to recover from the stress of his day.
 
Advice for Mars: She values love, communication, beauty, and relationships.
Advice for Venus: He values appreciation, admiration, recognition, and trust.
 
Advice for Mars: A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of relationships.
Advice for Venus: A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results.
 
Advice for Mars: Resist the temptation to solve her problems - empathize instead.
Advice for Venus: Do not offer advice without being asked - just appreciate him.
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