Women Love A Man With A Plan

By John Gray

In this article we want to talk about the "Halfway Theory". A guy who is a "nice guy" will often do and say things to women that in his mind are showing respect for them and their feelings.

However, from her point of view he may actually be hurting his chances of a relationship with her because of this exact behavior. Here is why it can backfire on him and hurt his chances of "getting in the game."

The problem can be summed up by the "Halfway Theory," which comes into play when nice guys expect to be met halfway by the woman. Because he's being nice, he's trying to empower her and to give her equal control. The effect to her is that he seems less interested in her and it forces her to take the initiative and meet him half way.

He doesn't realize the incredible power men have to sweep a woman off her feet. The secret of the "players" is that their confidence and interest in her is attractive to the woman. Here's a tip on asking her out.

Don't ask her out halfway

Again, not wanting to pressure the woman or come on too strong, you say something like "Hey, maybe we could catch a movie some time" or "Let's get together for lunch."

This is actually leaving the ball in her court and then she's forced to pursue you.

Her attraction to you diminishes because you are not showing anything but casual interest in her. Therefore DO make specific plans and requests. Instead of "Maybe we could catch a movie sometime," try "There's a Cary Grant retrospective playing downtown next week. Would you like to go with me?" or " This great new Italian place opened near work. Could I take you there sometime next week?"

If you must test the waters with the vague "Maybe we could get together sometime," be sure to FOLLOW-UP with a specific plan immediately.

So if you say, "Maybe we could catch a movie sometime" and she says "That sounds great," immediately come up with a specific plan as in, "There's a Cary Grant retrospective playing downtown next week. Would you like to go?"

Women love the confidence of a man with a plan.

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God bless your family and your marriage.

Jim Stephens