How To Influence a Controlling Spouse
By Gary Chapman
If your spouse has a strongly controlling personality, my guess is that you do not have an intimate marriage.
Controllers often steam-roll their spouses in order to get things done.
The controlled spouse ends up with resentment and either fights back or withdraws in silent suffering. Neither of these approaches improves the situation.
I want to suggest that you try influencing your spouse by agreement. By that I mean you agree with their arguments, but don't accept their conclusions.
A wife might say, "Honey, I know that we are saving money by not using the dryer, but I don't have time to hang the clothes in the basement. If you want to do that, fine, but I'm going to use the dryer."
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Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman, based on his book, Desperate Marriages.