Dr. John Gray briefly discusses 5 things that women need to know and do in order improve their relationships with men.

 

 

Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus when you consider the widely different ways we think, feel, and act. The problem is we too often fail to understand our differences and we are expecting our partners to think and behave as we do.

www.MarsVenus.com has put together the following list of common things that women do, quite unknowingly, that drive men away.

To have a happier relationship, try to avoid these behaviors as much as possible.

Are you constantly telling your man how to drive, how to dress, how to behave? Women are good at making improvements, but this highly sensitive area is off-limits. The most important thing to a Martian is doing a good job. Question his competence and you'll not only hurt him, but you'll meet a wall of resistance. Instead of telling him what to do, try to ask for his opinion. Martians thrive in an environment where they are the experts, so help him be the expert. Instead of saying, "Honey, you should do this." Ask his opinion, "Honey what do you think of this?" This allows him to share his thoughts and you get him involved in a conversation about whatever issue is on your mind. This simple trick is how you can help bring about improvements in your man without telling him what to do!

This is a big "no-no" for women. When a Martian has a problem, he goes to his cave (becomes quiet and withdrawn) to solve it. This is normal behavior, and during these times, he doesn't want to talk or be disturbed. If you follow him into his cave, or pressure him to talk, you're likely to encounter a fire-breathing dragon. When a Martian is forced out of his cave before he is ready it's a bit like waking a sleeping giant. If you give your Martian the space to work his issues out on his own, you are showing him that you trust him. And trusting a Martian to do his best is one of the greatest gifts a Venusian can give her partner. So enjoy the time, see a movie, go out with friends, or simply relax...He'll be back soon enough.

Men can be big babies, so they're easy to mother, and of course, some mothering is readily accepted. The problem is when mothering becomes smothering. In effect, you're saying he isn't grown-up. He isn't competent. He can't handle things on his own. That's offensive. Also, mothering makes it difficult for him to see you in a romantic way! Instead trust him to handle his own issues and when he doesn't, then just let him deal with the repercussions. When he needs your help he'll be sure to ask.

When asking him for something, do you use the words "could you ... ?" It may seem like a minor point, but when you say, "could you take the trash out?" you're questioning whether or not he is capable of doing it. This is offensive to him. Instead, ask "would you take the trash out for me?" This shows you have confidence in him to handle the job and will be pleased to have him do it for you.

Many women are unaware of what it is that really turns men on in bed. One of his biggest turn-on's is knowing he is giving pleasure to you. He wants to see you aroused, excited, fulfilled. So, instead of worrying about pleasing him... Let him please you. When you have learned to communicate your desires, you'll discover one of the secrets to great sex!

Try to avoid these 5 behaviors that drive men away and your relationship will be more successful, and your overall happiness will be greater.