13. Give him breathing room. Sometimes men must crawl into their cave. Encourage his male friendships and time away for doing guy stuff. If you like sports and bloody thrillers, watch them with him. If you don't, go ahead and do something else that you can enjoy.

14. Clip newspaper and magazine articles you think will be of interest to him.

15. Don't expect him to be a great dancer. Appreciate whatever moves he has.

16. When he talks about his job or other subjects on which he is an expert, don't give a lot of advice. Just listen.

17. Be aware that men prefer a picture to a thousand words. In this light, assess your sleepwear. Is it always clean and attractive? Nightclothes reveal a lot about a relationship. Learn the language of lingerie. (White means "I want tenderness"; black, "I'm hot"; red, "I want to please you"; flannel with flowers, "Let's cuddle.")

18. Kiss him good-bye in the morning and hello in the evening. On the lips. Every day.

19. Set the lovemaking scene affectionately and assertively: a glowing candle, a bottle of massage oil, a bubble bath. These obvious nonverbal clues speak volumes.

20. Believe this truth: The majority of men correlate sexual frequency with marital satisfaction. Doesn't matter how long the act lasts. He wants it. So when you're too tired to get all wired, develop an open attitude about "quickies".

21. But it's a two-way street. Think of your love life as a negotiation -- sometimes you give a little, sometimes you get a lot. Once a month, plan an evening devoted to the kind of slow lovemaking that pleases you. Trade baby-sitting with another couple, if necessary. Then your husband can give you the passion and attention that you desire. Every few months, book a room at an inn or motel. (Think you can't afford to? You can't afford not to.) Making love in a different place is stimulating. Women who say they're too tired to make love are usually just bored with the same old routine.

22. Consider your perfume. Does he like it?

23. If he picks a restaurant or movie that you end up hating, resist criticizing his choice. A man may interpret your displeasure as a personal attack (even if he was just as disappointed as you were).

24. Reconnect through rituals. Weave a tapestry of romantic threads in your lives -- a short evening walk, a weekly date, a daily phone call or his favorite dinner on Fridays. Set aside time to make connections.

25. Take care of yourself. When you're upbeat, he'll feel closer to you.

Yesterday's Marriage Tips were #1 to #12.