5 Things To Never Say During An Argument And Why
 
By Ashley Neglia, AOL Health
 
When you're in the middle of a heated argument with your partner, it's possible that one of you will blurt out something you will regret later.

 

But there are some things that can be too damaging to the relationship and should never be said. AOL Health spoke to sex and relationship expert, Elina Furman, to find out what you should never say.
 
"It's just like the time you ..."
 
"We all have information about each other that we can use whenever we want," says Furman. "It's all about pushing each other's buttons."

 

When you constantly bring up past transgressions, you're telling your partner that you're not ready to move on. "Your partner doesn't want to relive the same fight for the next 50 years," says Furman. The result? You may end up pushing them away for good.
 
"I give up." 
 
Intense arguments with your partner may make you want to throw up your hands in defeat, but storming off doesn't help the issue get resolved. Even worse, it can be detrimental to the relationship.

 

"By avoiding [the conversation], you're saying their feelings don't matter," says Furman. "That can be very hurtful."
 
"I want out of this relationship ..."
 
"People say this because they want their partner to understand the enormity of the issue," says Furman. "But in the end, it backfires. Your partner is going to feel like you're very flippant and casual about the relationship."

 

Empty threats like these say that you're not really committed and aren't willing to work out your issues to remain together.
 
"I hate your ..."
 
Invoking this caustic remark during an argument can only make matters worse, especially when it's followed by "father" or "mother." "That puts your partner into a very difficult situation," says Furman.

 

"Even if you dislike [his or her family], there are more constructive ways of getting your point across and ways you can work together and rectify problems." After all, family is around forever, so if you create a divisive situation, be prepared for it to follow you around for the long haul.
 
"You're such a ..."
 
Calling your significant other a derogatory term in the heat of an argument isn't okay, no matter what it is.

 

"Everyone's been there," says Furman. "But you should never call each other names. It puts the relationship at a very hostile level."

 

Even if you've grown up using insulting remarks during fights with siblings or friends, or overheard your parents doing the same, doesn't mean it's okay to unleash them on your significant other, no matter how harmless you may think they are.

 

"When you're calling people names, you never know when you'll hit upon a raw nerve," says Furman. When you call someone stupid or dumb, it may seem innocuous to you, but it might make them think that they're not bright or intelligent enough for you, says Furman.
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