All Great Feats Are Accomplished One Small Step At A Time - Part 2
By Mort Fertel
(Continued from yesterday.)
Yesterday's key point was that once you make up your mind to do something, action is sure to follow. Whether you decide to leave or love, it's the decision that's most important.
Once the decision is in your head, there are 50 ways you could do either.
Everyone WANTS to renew their marriage. But very few people have a clue how to go about it.
Let's be clear about one thing first. It happens through ACTIONS. You'll never be able to blab your way out of a situation you behaved yourself into. You must act.
Okay, but what actions?
Do you remember when you used to just talk? Not about who's going to pick up the kids, make the dinner, or pay the bill...I mean just talk for the sake of talking. If you're like most couples, you need to start talking again. Tell your spouse about your dreams. Share your fears. Tell a joke. Talk about the interesting person you met today or the experience you had jogging in the park.
In the morning before you part for the day, share something with your spouse. In the middle of day, call your spouse for a Talk Charge. You don't have to be all sweetsie if you don't want to. But
make sure you don't discuss anything logistical. And don't fight! Just talk.
You and/or your spouse probably feel you don't get enough attention from each other. As discussed, it could be that you need to talk more. But you also probably need to touch more.
Reach out and TOUCH your spouse today. Try a warm kiss or a gentle rub. Stroke their cheek or play with their feet. It only takes a moment, but the positive energy can carry you through an entire
evening.
When you caress your spouse's hand, play with their feet, rub their shoulders, or stroke their cheek, there's a moment there (if you do it RIGHT) when your spouse knows that you are completely connected with them. Fill your marriage with a few of those moments each day and your relationship will begin to change.
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