Men and women THINK, SPEAK, and DECIDE differently - Part 1
 
How do men and women THINK differently?
 
Men think COMPARTMENTALLY and women think GLOBALLY. 
 
Men and women store information and file away data in their cognitive memory banks very differently. In general men tend to separate details and store them in different "compartments", much like a file-cabinet-drawer system, with labels such as (in random order): Work, Hobbies, Wife, Sex, etc.
 
Cognitively speaking, men tend to open and close "drawers" needed for the immediate moment, staying exclusively in that one compartment, and nothing else even exists except for what is in that compartment.
 
Women, on the other hand, tend to do the complete opposite and connect every thing to everything else, seeing life more globally. Women see how details and data have underlying and interrelated connections.
 
Examples of compartmental and globalized thinking:
 
Ladies, have you ever called your husband or partner to ask him to pick something up at the grocery store on his way home, only for him to arrive home empty-handed? That's because he was in the "work" compartment, focusing exclusively on getting the job done, where nothing else exists but his work.
 
Have you ever tried to talk to your husband or partner about something you felt was important while he is focusing his attention on the football game? Doesn't work out too well, does it?
 
Men, have you ever gotten into a disagreement with your wife or partner about something, and she brings up stuff that happened months ago? You likely stood there looking at her with the "deer in the headlights" sort of look wondering, "What in the world does THAT have anything to do with THIS?" 
 
Or, how about this: You have a disagreement with your wife or partner in the morning before leaving for work, and later that evening you're feeling a bit frisky, only to get the "I've got a headache" schpeal? That's because she's thinking globally, connecting and intertwining details and data as they all relate to one another. She's been simmering and stewing all day long about the disagreement, probably thinking of all the things she intends to say when you arrive home, and now you want to get all lovey-dovey?
 
Both ways of thinking, compartmental and global, are great ways to think, with their own inherent strengths and weaknesses. Put them both together in the same relationship or marriage, and things may start getting very interesting, to say the least. If you work together and understand each other, it can be very effective. But you may also end up deeply at odds with each other and not be able to get out of it.
 
What is happening here cuts straight to the heart of the differences between men and women and how they think and store cognitive data. The man closes the "wife" drawer and goes to work, leaving behind all thought of the disagreement with his wife, opens the "work" drawer and stays completely focused within the framework of his job, to later return home still in the work compartment. There stands his wife giving him the cold shoulder treatment and angry glances. Worse yet, he arrives home to his upset and frustrated wife, angrily discussing her laundry list of problems she's had with the children all day long, the moment he walks in the door.

Tomorrow: Men and Women SPEAK differently.

 

From the website: Tell It Like It Is.Net

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