Men and Women THINK, SPEAK, and DECIDE Differently - Part 2
 
How do men and women speak differently?
 
Men speak in short phrases with little or no details, whereas women speak in paragraphs, giving lots of story-like details. 
 
Men want and need the "bottom line" first, while women want and need details, details, details.
 
That is not to say that men are not interested in getting the details, because they often do want them, but only after getting the bottom line answer to their question. Women enjoy the suspense of working up to the bottom line, for the joy is in the telling of the story. 
 
Men, however, experience this suspense as agitation, sometimes becoming very frustrated while waiting for the punch line or bottom line to the story.
 
To effectively communicate with someone of the opposite sex, in your personal or career relationships, you must change your "one size fits all" approach.
 
On average, it has been estimated that men speak 12,500 words in a given day and women speak about 25,500 words in a day. Thus comes the old joke about a man going to work and using up 12,495 words and coming home with only five words left! When he arrives home from work he says, "What's for dinner?" (that's three) and "Good night" (that's five!). 
 
Men communicate to report facts, while women communicate to build rapport. This mismatch of Report-Talk vs. Rapport-Talk can greatly increase the friction and tension in interpersonal relationships with those of the opposite sex, in our home lives and in the work place.
 
Men, when your wife asks you "How was your day?" and you reply with a simple "Fine" with little or no details, she will be left feeling like "he never tells me anything" or "I have no idea what is going on in his life". Surely that's not what you intended, so check it out next time.

 

Tomorrow: Men and Women DECIDE differently.

 

From the website: Tell It Like It Is.Net

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