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Forgiveness Is A Gift You Give Yourself

 
By Michele Weiner-Davis
 
September 13, 2011                                                                             Issue 769    

  

Summary of this article

 

In this article Michele Weiner-Davis is talking about forgiveness after an affair, but there is a very important generalized principle that she brings up. Holding resentment hurts the person holding on to it. Forgiveness is for the benefit of the person who has been wronged. How to exactly do it is for another article.

 

God bless your family and your marriage.

 

Jim   

Forgiveness Is A Gift You Give Yourself

 

By Michele Weiner-Davis

 

When there has been infidelity, people just don't forget about it. In fact, they don't ever forget it.

 

What does happen is that memories of the discovery and the pain tend to fade. The thoughts about betrayal become less frequent and less intense over time. And the good news is that people should NOT forget because we all learn from our experiences, both good and bad.

 

And although people don't forget betrayal or affairs, forgiveness is still mandatory, not to let the unfaithful person off the hook, but because holding a grudge shackles people to the past.

 

It is bad for one's health, both emotionally and physically.

 

There is no intimacy when there are grudges. Life is painful because there is a wall separating people.

 

When betrayed spouses allow themselves to have feelings of forgiveness, life lightens up. It is freeing. Love begins to flow again.

 

Letting go of the past begins to make room for happiness in the present.

 

So, forgiveness isn't meant for the unfaithful, it is a gift betrayed spouses give themselves.

 


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