Contributing To The World Is A Must For Marriages

By John Gray

We all have a need to make a difference in the world.

If you are lucky, what you do to make a living is also a passion.

Even if your work is not that fulfilling, at least you have a source of connection in your colleagues, clients, and everyone else who works in your field. Join professional organizations and office teams and contribute to fund-raising events to expand your base of support.

If you do not work at an outside job, there is so much you can do to contribute to your community and various charities. You will be working with others for common goals to help the less fortunate, which will do a lot to raise oxytocin and testosterone.

When you do not have meaningful work in your life, you will expect your partner to make your life more meaningful.

A romantic partner can never be a substitute for your need to make a difference in the world.

It is very important to feel you are contributing in some way to the well-being of others. Such activities will make you feel connected and build your sense of self-worth.

If you do not regularly experience being valued outside your home and family, you will become too dependent on your partner to make you feel good.

Women begin to feel as if they don't matter to their partner, and men become temperamental.