Resources for Matching (More coming all the time)

Unification Sanctuary Matching Handbook

Most recent version available. Covers many important topics about matching. Valuable reference, especially for starting the process. (PDF file)

Principles of Matching by Jim and Hiromi Stephens

Handbook written by Jim and Hiromi as a guidebook for understanding the matching process using a paradigm from Divine Principle for Adam and Eve's family. (PDF file)
Matching Resources A long list of suggested books and resources in a printable format. (PDF file)
Professional Matching Advice 15 page article from eHarmony.Com that is very complete. Great information learned by the matching website: eHarmony. Lots and lots of details on matching variables. Excellent resource. A must read. (PDF file)
101 Questions To Ask Before You Get Engaged Great list of questions to think about and ask before getting engaged to marry. Questions are from the book by the same name from H. Norman Wright. (PDF file)

Introduction to the Five Love Languages and the Five Languages of Apology

This is a former PowerPoint presentation that introduces all about the Five Love Languages and the Five Languages of Apology. This will help explain the value of taking the following surveys in order to better understand others and build relationships. (PDF file)

     Five Love Languages Packet

Explanation of the Five Love Languages and simple questionnaire to determine your "love language". Helpful for the whole family to understand each other. This is a generic information package. (PDF file)

     Five Love Languages - Singles Profile

Questionnaire specifically for Single people to help determine their "Love Language." (PDF file)

     Five Love Languages - Husbands Profile

Questionnaire specifically for Husbands to help determine their "Love Language." (PDF file)

     Five Love Languages - Wives Profile

Questionnaire specifically for Wives to help determine their "Love Language." (PDF file)

     Five Love Languages - Husbands/Wives Packet

Questionnaire and information  specifically for Husbands and Wives to help determine their "Love Languages." (PDF file)

Five Languages of Apology Packet

This packet contains a full explanation of what are the 5 languages of the way people apologize and receive apologies. It also contains a 3 page quiz to learn your "apology language". A real breakthrough in helping people mend relationships and keep them healthy. (PDF file of information)

Myers-Briggs Style Inventory

The most widely used personality inventory in the world. This packet contains a full explanation and a 2 page quiz to determine your style. This helps you understand other people on 4 scales: way of getting energy (Introvert or Extrovert), seeker of facts or possibilities, spontaneous or making plans, etc. (PDF file)

Flag Page

Information and Explanation in a PDF file. This is an online quiz to help determine what motivates you in life, what makes you feel passionate. Very helpful for understanding what a person wants out of life. Packet explains about the test and where to take it. Cost is $25.

Energy Profiles Information

Check out this website and books: It’s Just My Nature! and The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle. Website and quiz: . Explains how people have 4 “types” of different energy levels and ways of interacting. Helps show how various types would interact in relationships and in a marriage.

Is It Infatuation or True Love

Is It Infatuation or Is It True Love. Long list of ways that you can tell if it is only infatuation versus a long list of ways for you to tell if it is true love. (PDF file)

The Differences Between Men and Women (Scientific Research and Cartoons)

This is a former PowerPoint presentation by Jim Stephens. It explains a large amount of recent scientific discoveries about the differences between men and women. It also illustrates the differences with cartoons. (PDF file)

The 10 Big Differences Between Men's Brains and Women's Brains

This is a two page article by Amber Hensley about what experts have discovered about the different structures between men's and women's brains and how their brains function differently. (PDF file)

Why Men Don't Share Their Feelings - Parts 1 and 2

Great article for young women and men both. Writen by David Murrow, author of Why Men Hate Going To Church. (PDF file)

Understanding the Differences Between Men and Women

Good article by Gary Smalley summarizing a lot of the physical and mental/emotional differences between men and women. (PDF file)

Why Marriage Matters

Why Marriage Matters: 26 Conclusions from the Social Sciences. This is a 2 page summary of all the benefits of marriage based on scientific research. (PDF file)

8 Tips to a Great Marriage

Lots of good information from GrowthTrac Ministries. (PDF file)

10 Things You Can Do To Have a Healthy Marriage

Another list of good things to do to have a health, happy marriage. This is from the National Healthy Marriage Resource Center. (PDF file)

All-Time 10 Best tips on Prayer by Jim Stephens

This is a small, helpful booklet called: The All-Time 10 Best Tips on Prayer for Beginners That I Have Ever Heard
by Jim Stephens. It's free so check it out.  (PDF file)

Emotional Control and Boundaries

This is a great article on emotional maturity and control. It's called Emotional Control & Boundaries
by Dr. Raymond J. Hill. (PDF file)

Chastity: Preparation for a Lasting Marriage

This article is called Chastity: Preparation for a Lasting Marriage by Mike McManus. It goes into the sociological evidence that chastity before marriage is the best predictor of a successful marriage. (PDF file)

Four Skills of Intimate Conversations

Four Skills of Intimate Conversations. This is a list of helpful words, questions, and responses to you could use during an intimate conversation if you are still learning how to express yourself in such situations. (PDF file)

The Master List of Marriage Tips 1,067 Daily Marriage Tips. Hundreds of articles on the differences of men and women, how to improve marriages, parenting, etc. Inspirational messages, profound insights from God, and scientific support for relationships. (Website username: Member. Password: 20112011)  (Website)
Sunday Bulletin Inserts Website links to 95 Inserts for Sunday Bulletins. Each one contains a Marriage Tip, a Parenting Tip, and a Spiritual Tip. Articles for supporting improved marriages, parenting, and relationship with God. (Website username: Member. Password: 20112011)
Questions to ask a Potential Matchee A list of 17 questions developed to help potential matchees get to know each other on a deeper level. It is recommended that a person choose one question to write on and pass it to his/her parents to forward to the parents of a potential match. (PDF file)
1,000 Love Questions

This is a long list of 1,000 questions on all different types of topics. You could use it to get to know someone better or with someone with whom you want to build a deeper relationship. (PDF file)

It's Your Choice (book)

Excellent book on Christian husband and wife relatioship and loyalty in marriage. Very righteous. (PDF file)

47 Health Benefits of Prayer

This is a 12 page report from NewsMax Media that brings out 47 scientific, research based conclusions about the benefits of prayer. A very powerful testimony to the value of prayer. (PDF file)

Files from Matching Retreat - Lake Sanctuary on Jan. 18-19, 2019

The Retreat Schedule. The Principles of Matching. The Matching Handbook. Matching Resources. Dorit's Powerpoint on Matching. Video of Hyung Jin Nim's Matching Testimony. Video of Hyung Jin Nim on Love and Respect. Suggestions for Website. Suggestions for Next Step to Matching.  Final Report.